Let me know if I’m alone on this but, I feel like we are getting closer and closer to living in a Barbie-like world? What I mean by that is that we are continuously surrounded by “unrealistic” expectations of how we should want to look and be. I admit, it gets a little difficult sometimes to avoid the pressure. Especially since delving more into social media but, I just think back to a few years ago.
Just a few years ago, I found myself not being me and painting my face with makeup every time I left the house, even those quick grocery store runs. I would have to have the slightest bit of something on my face just to cover up slight imperfections because I was so insecure.
Growing up, I was always pretty confident in who I was as a person, whether that was through my physical and mental capabilities in addition to my looks. At some point for me it all got a little blurry and I became uncomfortable with my bare face. With the emergence of Youtube and discovering tailor-made videos that gave me answers to my desire of masking my physical insecurities, I began to delve into makeup. “How to cover acne scars?” ,”how to put on eye-liner?“, “which foundations are best for dark skin? ” was often typed into the search box. And I found what I wanted in the form of tutorials and DIY remedies that enabled me effectively hide behind a mask.
I’m confident that if you asked a few of my closest friends to describe me, they’d say I’m pretty easy going; especially when it comes to makeup and maintenance. Besides skincare, I’m very low maintenance with my appearance (outfits not included). For example, I pretty much cut all of my hair off to achieve the epitome of this: less hair equals less hassle. So, I morphed into someone I didn’t recognize and I didn’t like who I was becoming.
One day, I just looked at myself in the mirror and I told myself I didn’t want to be this person anymore. I was going to stop wearing makeup until I felt beautiful again, just the way I was.
So, that’s what I did.
Sure, it was really difficult at first with the constant comparison and ashamedness I felt. But, I got over that. Now, a few years later I have come to the realization that I can appreciate the general artistry of makeup and the pure talent and giftedness that goes into some of the most beautifully-crafted and extravagant looks BUT also know what works for me. I mean hey, I dabble with creating make-up tutorials myself because I thoroughly enjoy it but, I had to recognize the difference between that and using it as a mask due to the discomfort I felt in my own skin.
For me, when and if I decide to put something on my face in day-to-day life, it’s all about enhancing my natural beauty which can be as simple as some mascara and tinted-moisturizer that let my dark spots shine through, which I’m okay with. I don’t like this whole, “everyone that wears makeup is insecure” notion, because it’s simply not true. But, on the other spectrum I think it’s important to not use makeup as a mask for your insecurities.
Trust me I get it. You can go on any social media platform and see so many people who look perfect, live worry free lives and aspire to be like them by not being who you are. But, remember that appearances fade and no one’s life is perfect no matter how it appears. Remember what makes you you because those are your strengths. That’s it.
Now, I feel so confident exactly as I am and in my opinion there are bigger fish to fry.
Nowadays, I often opt out of makeup so I won’t have to deep clean my face after a night out (easy going much?) and I just don’t mind stepping out bared-face.
Thanks for listening and feel free to share anything you’re insecure about or wish to change below. Followed by something you love about yourself!
*Featured photo by Bill W.